Well, I certainly felt the heat coming from that title! But, no we are not speaking of stand in the corner time. Real discipline is much deeper than that.
It is an unseen driving force in our lives. It’s what makes us keep moving forward when we need to. It’s what makes us stop when we should.
Discipline is important, whether you are teaching kids to be disciplined at home or at school. Not all people are capable of self-discipline, even adults find it difficult! We see examples just about every day.
Discipline needs to be instilled during a child’s earliest stages of life, this would help them develop their mental attitudes and prepare them in handling school, work and other social activities.
• Home Discipline
Before children would even reach school or play with other kids, their first social interaction is with their parents. Parents play a crucial role in preparing their children for social interaction with their peers and elders.
Most parents would think that discipline is more of a punishment. Actually, it is more about teaching your kids to identify what is right from what is wrong and how wrong choices could put them into bad situations.
When teaching children about discipline, consistency is the key. If you give in to what they want once they start crying or complaining, they have found a trigger and would repeat it again.
But if they see that you are firm and consistent, they will learn that crying, complaining and throwing tantrums will just not get what they want. And when they find that just the opposite is true, those attempts at changing your decisions will dwindle.
Inconsistency with your punishment and rules will only make children to misbehave even more. And over time they will come to believe, as a result of your inconsistency, that this is an acceptable practice. This will only serve to complicate their lives later, when they go out into the ‘real world’.
If your kids are throwing tantrums, stay calm.
The reason why your kids are throwing tantrums is because, most likely, they want to get your attention. If you fuss or yell at them, the usual response, it is still attention and it is more likely that they would continue it in the future.
Too much is never a good thing. Too much criticism can have a negative impact on how your children will come to view themselves. Too much praise, on the other hand, tends to make your comments less effective. Consider your thoughts of someone who has a child that can do no wrong!
Positive reinforcement is another very important tool. When commenting on the child’s behavior it is best, when appropriate, to use positive and encouraging words. Setting a good example is very important.
We, as parents, are the people they would usually see the most. They watch and hear everything you do and say. They are likely to model what you do and if you also check to see if you abide with your own rules.
• School Discipline
Discipline in the classroom is a thing that many teachers dread, especially the newer ones. Teachers are required to deal with children that have different temperaments and behavioral traits. Having a diverse group often will put teachers in the edge of their sanity.
Before school year starts, you need to have a solid discipline plan. Before the first day of school, you should have already discussed the classroom rules. You could discuss it the same you discuss academic topics.
This is especially important for very young children going to school for the first time. Even though they may have gone to a day care, regular schooling can be much different. A child that has spent their early years with a relative and not a group environment like a day care, need this conversation even more. This will greatly minimize any kind of disruptive behavior in class.
As a teacher, if you want to earn your students’ respect, then be fair. You have to be conscious of the group when making decisions.
So, even if it is your best student that violates the rules, then administer the resulting punishment or consequence for their action in accordance with the level of the infraction, not with perceived favor.
If one of your students becomes confrontational, then avoid banging heads with them in front of the other students. You do not want to “humiliate” your students in front of their classmates, nor lend the impression that you are so easily led into confrontation.
Busy the other students while you take them outside of classroom or and talk to them, calmly and effectively. Often the reason for a confrontational outburst is to gain attention. The action results in the child getting not only the teachers attention, but that of the entire classroom.
As with discipline at home, consistency is very important at school as well. Make sure that the everyday rules are followed, if not, the students will come to think that it would be easy to get away with misbehaving.
But do not bring the grudge with the next day. For example, a student did something wrong yesterday you should not expect that they would do the same the next day.
Give them a chance. But, for example, they continue same disruptive behavior for a few consecutive days, then consider having a good talk with the child. A bigger, unknown to you, issue can be at the root of the problem.
Teaching children and ourselves discipline can be a very difficult thing to do. For many, it can be even more difficult than the algebra and Calculus questions in their homework.
Your children’s attitude and behavior in the future would depend on how effectively they learn discipline early in their lives.
It is often difficult, but the most effective method of teaching discipline to children is in becoming the model yourself.