Motivating Students by Being Involved

By , 15 December, 2011, No Comment

It’s probably no real secret that those children whose parents more involved in their lives are more happy, healthy, and more well-adjusted and tend to excel at their educational and extracurricular pursuits.

It can also increase their cognitive development, it helps to keep them motivated, it strengthens the parent-child relationship, and has a direct positive influence on their overall academic achievement.

And in turn, it can also help parents achieve a more positive outlook on their parenting, help to increase their own self confidence and self esteem, and they will most likely feel more satisfied with their children’s educational experiences at school.

But where and how do you get involved in your childs social activities?

With todays busy schedules between home, work, and school, it may feel that the average family has very little quality time left to offer.

However, there are different options and levels of commitment available to fit most every parent’s availability, and with some careful planning and dedication, you can make this a positive experience for both yourself and your children.

First of all, you should discover what your child is most passionate about. Perhaps you’ve thought about volunteering for the school bake sale to raise money, but your child is actually more actively involved in her local Girl Scouts troop.

If that’s the case, then simply get together with the other Girl Scout parents and see what you might contribute that would help the troop the most. Maybe you could help organize a bake sale to benefit their next summer outing.

It’s also especially important to consider what skills, talents and abilities that you can bring to the table. Maybe your child’s school is in desperate need of your help in organizing a fundraiser, but your skills in sewing and designing might better serve the school if you were to help in making the costumes for the school play.

Remember, you want this to be a positive experience for the both of you, and if your child senses that you’re not happy with what you’ve chosen to become involved in, then they very likely will not be happy as well.

But the bottom line is to get involved in some way and stay involved.

Children of involved parents are generally less likely to get into mischief, have fewer emotional problems, or have many serious problems in school.

You benefit by connecting with and staying connected to your children. It’s a win-win situation for you both.

And besides, being involved in your child’s social activities is a heck of a lot of fun. You may very well find yourself wondering why you had not done this before.

 

Motivating Students with Discipline

By , 14 February, 2010, 3 Comments

Well, I certainly felt the heat coming from that title! But, no we are not speaking of stand in the corner time. Real discipline is much deeper than that.

It is an unseen driving force in our lives. It’s what makes us keep moving forward when we need to. It’s what makes us stop when we should.

Discipline is important, whether you are teaching kids to be disciplined at home or at school. Not all people are capable of self-discipline, even adults find it difficult! We see examples just about every day.

Discipline needs to be instilled during a child’s earliest stages of life, this would help them develop their mental attitudes and prepare them in handling school, work and other social activities.

Home Discipline

Before children would even reach school or play with other kids, their first social interaction is with their parents. Parents play a crucial role in preparing their children for social interaction with their peers and elders.

Most parents would think that discipline is more of a punishment. Actually, it is more about teaching your kids to identify what is right from what is wrong and how wrong choices could put them into bad situations.

When teaching children about discipline, consistency is the key. If you give in to what they want once they start crying or complaining, they have found a trigger and would repeat it again.

But if they see that you are firm and consistent, they will learn that crying, complaining and throwing tantrums will just not get what they want. And when they find that just the opposite is true, those attempts at changing your decisions will dwindle.

Inconsistency with your punishment and rules will only make children to misbehave even more. And over time they will come to believe, as a result of your inconsistency, that this is an acceptable practice. This will only serve to complicate their lives later, when they go out into the ‘real world’.
If your kids are throwing tantrums, stay calm.

The reason why your kids are throwing tantrums is because, most likely, they want to get your attention. If you fuss or yell at them, the usual response, it is still attention and it is more likely that they would continue it in the future.

Too much is never a good thing. Too much criticism can have a negative impact on how your children will come to view themselves. Too much praise, on the other hand, tends to make your comments less effective. Consider your thoughts of someone who has a child that can do no wrong!

Positive reinforcement is another very important tool. When commenting on the child’s behavior it is best, when appropriate, to use positive and encouraging words. Setting a good example is very important.

We, as parents, are the people they would usually see the most. They watch and hear everything you do and say. They are likely to model what you do and if you also check to see if you abide with your own rules.

School Discipline

Discipline in the classroom is a thing that many teachers dread, especially the newer ones. Teachers are required to deal with children that have different temperaments and behavioral traits. Having a diverse group often will put teachers in the edge of their sanity.

Before school year starts, you need to have a solid discipline plan. Before the first day of school, you should have already discussed the classroom rules. You could discuss it the same you discuss academic topics.

This is especially important for very young children going to school for the first time. Even though they may have gone to a day care, regular schooling can be much different. A child that has spent their early years with a relative and not a group environment like a day care, need this conversation even more. This will greatly minimize any kind of disruptive behavior in class.

As a teacher, if you want to earn your students’ respect, then be fair. You have to be conscious of the group when making decisions.

So, even if it is your best student that violates the rules, then administer the resulting punishment or consequence for their action in accordance with the level of the infraction, not with perceived favor.

If one of your students becomes confrontational, then avoid banging heads with them in front of the other students. You do not want to “humiliate” your students in front of their classmates, nor lend the impression that you are so easily led into confrontation.

Busy the other students while you take them outside of classroom or and talk to them, calmly and effectively. Often the reason for a confrontational outburst is to gain attention. The action results in the child getting not only the teachers attention, but that of the entire classroom.

As with discipline at home, consistency is very important at school as well. Make sure that the everyday rules are followed, if not, the students will come to think that it would be easy to get away with misbehaving.

But do not bring the grudge with the next day. For example, a student did something wrong yesterday you should not expect that they would do the same the next day.

Give them a chance. But, for example, they continue same disruptive behavior for a few consecutive days, then consider having a good talk with the child. A bigger, unknown to you, issue can be at the root of the problem.

Teaching children and ourselves discipline can be a very difficult thing to do. For many, it can be even more difficult than the algebra and Calculus questions in their homework.

Your children’s attitude and behavior in the future would depend on how effectively they learn discipline early in their lives.

It is often difficult, but the most effective method of teaching discipline to children is in becoming the model yourself.

 

Motivating Students by Taking Family Holidays

By , 14 February, 2010, No Comment

What do your children like to do on family holidays? Go to the beach or spend a week in the country? Going to theme or amusement parks? Perhaps, they like to go camping or just visiting with relatives.

Whatever they might enjoy, family holidays are a chance for everyone in the family to get reacquainted and spend some quality time together.

It’s also chance for parents to really talk with their teens and find out what’s happening in their lives. It’s important to keep the lines of communication open, especially with teens, and a family holiday can be an excellent time to do that.

Having a good relationship with their parents is one of the most important factors in keeping teens out of trouble. This is a time that social and personal skills are honed before reaching adulthood.

Studies have shown that when families take holidays together, they are more likely to eat together and are less likely to argue. It’s difficult to argue with your mouth full.

They do not watch as much television because they are involved in doing other activities together. Kids have even reported that their parents seemed to act differently while on family holidays.

While family holidays are a great time to connect with your kids, communication problems that may already exist will not magically disappear.

Especially with teenagers it is very important to listen to them and be as flexible as possible.

Find out what your kids would like to do and to eat and make plans accordingly. While even teenagers need boundaries, it is important for parents to try to avoid needless confrontations.

Always explain why you must make the decisions that you do and always show them positive attention. Many times you can avoid confrontation over a decision by simply giving your children a reason ‘why’. And, “Because I said so!” is always the wrong reason.

Kids always appreciate being included in your travel plans. There’s a good chance that they will choose a theme park or the beach if those are among the options. Plus, it helps develop decision making skills.

Sometimes it works well for your teenager to take a special friend along on the family holidays. While this might increase the parents’ work load, the teens are very likely to really appreciate it.

Also, sometimes it works well for kids to take their holidays with their grandparents or aunts and uncles instead of their parents.

Sometimes, there may be a special relationship there that can help kids open up and communicate about their problems or concerns that they may not feel comfortable speaking to their parents about at the moment.

Relatives can sometimes make good sounding boards for children to express a particular problem or concern, before bringing it to mom and dad. Yes, it’s true, they don’t tell us everything!

While on family holidays, if teens become uncooperative or behave inappropriately, try to deal with the problem in private. Teens are very much aware of embarrassment and it is not necessary to exploit this sensitivity.

In fact, you might explain to the teens how their behavior has embarrassed you, and they, in turn might work harder at getting along and acting more appropriately.

Kids will be happier on family vacations if they some have snacks, drinks, and entertainment. Few kids enjoy a very long ride in the car! Try to provide individual CD players or hand-held video or learning games, and remember to take plenty of bathroom breaks.

Sometimes kids enjoy the ride more if they can help you follow the map to your destination. This is an excellent educational activity for them as well. And you will often find that they enjoy learning this new skill.

By following these simple suggestions, your family holidays can become a happy memory.

And make the trip more enjoyable for everyone.

“Kids are People Too!” – Art Linkletter

 

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